Parenting Plans vs Parenting Orders: What's the Difference and Which Do You Need?

If you've separated and you and your ex are on reasonably good terms about the kids, you've probably heard two very different pieces of advice: write up a parenting plan, or get parenting orders. They sound similar. They are not the same thing, and picking the wrong one for your situation can leave you without the protection you thought you had. This guide explains what each one actually is, how a parenting plan vs parenting order comparison plays out in practice, and how to work out which one your family needs.

What is a parenting plan?

A parenting plan is a written agreement between parents (or, in some cases, other people significant in a child's life) that sets out arrangements for a child, such as where they live, the time they spend with each parent, how decisions about schooling or medical care will be made, and how communication will work day to day. Under section 63C of the Family Law Act 1975 (Cth), a parenting plan must be in writing, dated, and signed by the parents involved.

You don't need to go to court to make a parenting plan, and it doesn't need to be approved by anyone. That's exactly what makes it appealing for a lot of families: it's fast, free to draft, and easy to adjust as circumstances change. The trade-off is that a parenting plan is not legally enforceable. If one of you stops following it, the other can't apply to the court to have it enforced. The plan can still be useful as evidence of what was agreed if a dispute later ends up before the court, but on its own it carries no legal force.

What is a parenting order?

A parenting order is different: it is an order of the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (FCFCOA) and it is legally binding. Parenting Orders set out various matters, including who a child lives with, how much time they spend with each parent or other significant person, and who is responsible for major long-term decisions such as schooling, health care and religious upbringing.

A parenting order doesn't have to come from a court fight. Most parenting orders in Australia are made by consent, meaning both parents agree on the terms and simply ask the court to formalise them, without a hearing or either party having to attend. Once the order is made, though, it is treated the same as any other court order. Breaching it without a reasonable excuse can lead to a contravention application, and in serious or repeated cases, penalties that include fines or even imprisonment

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The key differences at a glance

The practical differences between a parenting plan and a parenting order (whether made by consent or after a hearing) come down to four things.

• Enforceability: a parenting order is legally binding and can be enforced through the court; a parenting plan cannot.

• Cost and speed: a parenting plan can be written and signed the same day, at no cost beyond legal advice you choose to get; consent orders require a court filing fee and typically take several weeks to be reviewed and made.

• Flexibility: a parenting plan can be updated at any time simply by agreeing to a new one; parenting orders, once final, can generally only be changed by consent, through a fresh application, or in limited circumstances recognised by the court.

• Certainty: parenting orders give you something to point to, and enforce, if the other parent stops cooperating; a parenting plan relies on ongoing goodwill.

Can a parenting plan change a parenting order?

This is where the two documents overlap, and where a lot of confusion comes from. Under section 65DAB of the Family Law Act, a parenting order is generally taken to be subject to any later parenting plan the same people enter into. In practice, this means that if you already have parenting orders and later agree, in writing, to do things differently, that later parenting plan can effectively alter parts of the order, and neither of you is in breach if you both follow the new plan instead. The court can, in limited circumstances, direct that a particular order isn't open to being varied this way, so it's worth checking the wording of your specific order rather than assuming the general rule applies.

What a parenting plan cannot do is remove your ability to rely on the original order if the arrangement breaks down again. If your co-parent stops honouring the informal parenting plan, you can generally fall back on the earlier parenting order and seek to enforce it.

How the court decides what Paregoes into a parenting order

Whether orders are made by consent or after a contested hearing, the court's paramount consideration is the best interests of the child, assessed under section 60CC of the Family Law Act. Following the Family Law Amendment Act 2023, which commenced on 6 May 2024, the previous presumption of equal shared parental responsibility no longer applies. There is no starting assumption that decision-making responsibility, or time with each parent, should be split evenly. Instead, the court works through a shorter, more targeted list of best-interests factors, with what is needed to keep a child safe given priority over the benefit of a meaningful relationship with each parent where the two are in tension. This matters for consent orders too: even when parents agree, a registrar reviewing the application must still be satisfied the proposed orders are in the child's best interests before making them.

Parenting plan vs Parenting order; Which one does your family actually need?

There's no universally right answer, and the choice often changes over time as circumstances settle or shift. As a general guide, a parenting plan tends to work well when communication between you and your co-parent is good, arrangements are likely to keep evolving (for example, as children get older or start school), and neither of you needs the reassurance of a legally enforceable document. Parenting orders, whether by consent or otherwise, tend to be the safer choice when there has been family violence or a significant power imbalance, when trust has broken down and you need something enforceable, when there's a real prospect one parent may relocate or restrict the other's time with the children, or when you simply want the certainty of knowing the arrangement can't be unilaterally changed.

Some families use both: a set of consent orders that establish the core, non-negotiable framework, with a parenting plan sitting alongside it to manage the day-to-day detail, such as changeover times or holiday swaps, that benefits from being easy to adjust.

How to formalise your arrangement

A parenting plan can be drafted between you and your co-parent, though it's worth having a lawyer check the wording before you both sign, particularly around decision-making responsibility and dispute resolution. For consent orders, you and the other parent file an Application for Consent Orders together with the proposed orders through the Commonwealth Courts Portal. There's no need to attend court: a registrar reviews the paperwork on the papers and, if satisfied the orders are in the child's best interests, makes them. As at the Court's July 2026 fee schedule the filing fee for an application for consent orders is $215, though court fees are reviewed periodically and it's worth confirming the current amount on the FCFCOA website before filing. Processing generally takes several weeks rather than months, though timeframes vary by registry.

Not sure which path is right for your family?

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